So I wanted to take a break to discuss some things about Self-Publishing…and ..forgive me because this may go all over the place. It’s not intentional but there’s a lot of things on my mind at the moment.
Having had a bout with a few “cyber bullies” on GR, it came as a genuine shock to me. I don’t know why it did. No, I take that back, I do know why. It came as a shock because so far in the self-publishing circles I’ve encountered, it has been one of the most fulfilling and generous communities I’ve ever encountered. And then They happened.
As I mentioned previously, it triggered some bad things in me. I learned a valuable lesson. I laughed a bit and then I carried on. I even received some very encouraging emails on GR that showed me even more support via links, etc. I cannot express how grateful I am to them. I’m a learner. I absorb information like it’s mana from the heavens. So the further I read about things like this, the more I’m understanding.
I get it now.
Everyone has a right to feel the way they do. I’m not disputing their right to feelings and emotions. I’m disputing the right they have to project those feelings onto other people. People that work very hard and jump through hoops to get their book passed around to an editor, get rejected, etc., are pissed off when works they deem unworthy get all this love. Oh yeah I get that. Trust me! I’ve vented about it, myself! But I’ve vented to friends in private. I don’t go and stomp on them like Rhinos putting out a campfire. The fact remains, people are buying it.
Do you know what that says?
That says that the Publishing Industry is no longer in control of what people want. The People are. And we are surprised because We were controlled in our reading, and our exposure. So we need to take a look within ourselves and realize that this is the revolution of “the art” and adapt.
You have to write what you want to write, for you. And stop worrying about sales. I’m saying this to myself as much as to everyone else. We think sales validate us, or our work. I swing back and forth. I feel bi-polar! But from the depth of my heart I really am just enjoying the entire experience. I love the interaction. I can’t help but want to share..I’m excited! I’m proud of what I did!!
If you don’t like it, I’m okay with that. I really am. I don’t like every book I pick up even if I like the person writing it. I don’t like every movie my favorite actor is in. It’s… o k a y. It’s only expression. Some people will get it and appreciate it and some people won’t. I don’t decorate my home for people outside to approve, do you? No, I decorate it so when I come in and I’m away from the world I can relax and feel like me. That is exactly how and why I write. So that I can be me by expression.
I don’t need kid gloves if you don’t like my work. Please tell me if you don’t! I thrive off of creative criticism. I want to grow. You’ll see work from me in all kinds of genres, I promise, because if I don’t try I’ll never know. I’ve never known anyone who could get everything right their first time. I admire them for trying, though.
I really hope the cyber-bullies aren’t parents. That’s all I’m going to say. If that’s how you treat the dreams of your child, we’re doomed. Hopefully my fears are unwarranted in that regards.
The beauty of Self-Publishing is that it gave me this amazing opportunity to share my expression with all of you, learn so much about this craft and its people, meet fantastic people who share my dreams and passion, learn valuable lessons, and smile.. a lot. One set back will not keep me down. Matter of fact, a thousand set backs won’t keep me down. I have pretty loyal fans spanning back 13+ years. They’re the ones that encouraged me to do this. I know They will never let me fall.
And they’re much scarier than the cyber bullies. 😉